Meeting strangers can be intimidating. The first thing to remember is: If you're attending an event to meet people, you're already in the same boat! Everyone is a little nervous when you meet a stranger, but I've found there are a few things you can do to help:
Come prepared with questions -- what things do you value? What things does the person you're talking to value? Rather than asking "Where did you grow up?", consider asking "What is your favorite memory of your home town?". Listen to their response, and show that you're listening by summarizing or asking follow-up questions.
Consistency is key! -- Relationships grow by meeting people over time, not after only meeting once. Keep showing up, or take that next step, and ask for their contact information (If you're nervous, you can always join the whatsapp group first! Ask me for details.)
Find ways to give back -- What do you like to do? Could members of the group join you?
Don't be afraid to share -- Vulnerability builds connection, so don't be afraid to share your authentic self, though be careful of over-sharing right away.
Preparation
1. Be open-minded: Before approaching someone new, take a moment to think about why you want to befriend them. Are there interests do you share? What values do you have in common? (And remember, you're both here, so you have that in common!)
2. Choose the right environment: Find a setting where you can comfortably strike up a conversation with someone new, such as a coffee shop, park, or event.
3. Be confident and friendly: Take a few deep breaths to calm your nerves and smile at those around you.
Starting a Conversation
1. Make eye contact: Catch the eye of someone who interests you and hold it for a second or two before breaking away.
2. Use small talk as an icebreaker: Ask open-ended questions like "How's your day going?" or "What brings you here today?"
3. Listen actively: Pay attention to their response and show genuine interest in what they have to say.
Building Rapport
1. Find common ground: Look for shared interests, hobbies, or experiences that can help create a connection.
2. Ask follow-up questions: Show curiosity about the other person's life by asking more questions related to your initial conversation starter.
3. Share your own experiences: Open up and share your story, but be mindful of personal boundaries.
Fostering Friendship
1. Exchange contact information (optional): If you hit it off with someone, consider exchanging numbers or social media handles to stay in touch.
2. Meet for a casual activity: Suggest meeting for coffee, lunch, or another low-key activity to build on the connection.
3. Be consistent and follow up: Make an effort to reach out and say hello if you've met someone new.
Additional Tips
1. Don't overthink it: Don't put too much pressure on making friends with strangers right away. Take things one conversation at a time.
2. Respect boundaries: Be mindful of personal space and don't push someone to talk about something they're not comfortable discussing.
3. Be patient and persistent: Building friendships takes time, so be willing to put in the effort and follow up with people you've met.
Common Challenges
1. Shyness or nervousness: Take a few deep breaths, relax your body language, and focus on listening rather than trying to talk.
2. Intimidation: Remember that everyone has different levels of confidence and social skills; nobody expects you to be an expert.
3. Rejection or awkwardness: Don't take it personally if the other person doesn't reciprocate your interest or if things don't click right away.
Remember, making friends with strangers is a process that requires effort, patience, and kindness. By following these steps and being open-minded, you can increase your chances of forming meaningful connections with people you meet.